Friday, November 6, 2009
Honey, I Spank the Kid
“Baap ki Maar Se To Haddiya Mazbut Hoti Ha”. Everyone must be aware of it. Is it true what can I say lets see.
Fathers are leaders of our houses. They are bankers, strict, physical, regulator & conductor of our househod symphony. Here I love to highlight the strict part. Well I love to start it with a movie quote from “Dilwale Dulhaniya Le Jayenge” where Kajol , her sister & mother were dancing & having fun but as the father Amrish Puri enters music changes, books on & pin drop silence. It indicates respect.
What make me play key board on this topic is a recent book by Barack Obama brother “Mark Obama Ndesandjo”, in which he talks about his abusive father. He also says “he’s a brilliant man but a social failure”. Michael Jackson too had such complaints with his strict father.
Beating, throwing chappals, locked in a toilet is in everybody’s childhood memory. And I am not an exception to it too. Ofcourse after that a fine treatment does ratifies it but for that moment.
My father slapped in front of my friends when I don’t do the study which he yelled me to do before he comes from office. Did this spank ensures that I will do every thing on time from next day. Obviously not I start the alternative way I decided to ignore him & let him do what he want to. Just following Gandhigiri If someone hits you on left then you move your right to him. All I want to say I moved away which he want to teach me that is to study and remember only one thing that this person want to hit me.
We normally makes fun of such things that in developed world you cannot beat your ward. But here you can use your kids as talcom powder. In advanced world they have strict laws. But here it still a miles ahead. As often we read in papers regarding beating in school. But who notices the household spanking.
Why is it so? Is it in our culture? Who started it? Is it right from the age of Ramayana?
May be we see Yashoda Mayya tieing Krishna when he steal butter.
We Indians try to give religious support to each of our daily affairs. Like who started kidnapping is it Ravan, rape Dushasan, leaving your pregnant wife Shri Ram. But who started beating a kid I never heard Yudhishtra mum beating him because he failed to spot “Chidiya Ki Aankh”.
Parents beat up their children only out of their inability to do anything else.
• Spanking perpetuates violence in children
• Spanking teaches children to use aggression as a means to achieve their ends
• Children who have been spanked are more prone to low self-esteem, depression and acceptance of low-paying jobs
Parents should find an alternative way of teaching good lessons to kids, a calm & cool way.
My friend Roselle just make me move towards a Bible Verse that “Jesus hate the sin & not the sinner”. Thanks a lot bebe. Now I say proudly that “I love my Father”.
Lets Pledge that when we have kids we will never beat them.